September 6, 2005 at 7:24 pm #8591
Thank you so much for your support. I’m still around and reading the board. I’ll lend support where I can and shoulder if needed. You’ve all been so kind to me and my family.
We’re doing okay right now. We’re all riding the waves of emotion. Most of the time, we’re okay. Sometimes the realization that he’s gone hits us and we miss him. I expected to cry more so maybe I’m still in shock?
Thank you again.
CarrieSeptember 6, 2005 at 11:26 pm #8592
Hi Carrie, good to hear from you. Please stay in touch.September 6, 2005 at 11:48 pm #8593
Carrie you are in our thoughts and prayers. Your strength is amazaing.
Peace be with you.September 7, 2005 at 7:12 am #8594
Thinking about you and look forward to your posts. Your strength supports us all.September 7, 2005 at 6:41 pm #8595
crying is a natural release that needs to occur, please don’t put a time limit on going through the grief process, although it was my fiance that passed away and not my dad, I’ve been through the grief and still continue to have lots of sad days but theres light at the end of the tunnel because I’m now having less and less sad day’s and more good day’s, as time passes you’ll find this out as well….. thanks for checking inSeptember 8, 2005 at 3:10 am #8596
Carrie, it is a grieving process & it has many phases. The beginning seems so surreal…as if they are on a long holiday…. From there it has its own way and its own time for each of us.
As always, I am sending you love & best wishes,
Kat.September 9, 2005 at 9:29 pm #8597
Husband 73 just had his 2nd opinion and was told he has 10% of blasts but is not anemic at this time so he haven’t gone through chemo yet. Our life is on hold. We have been married only 11 years. I am 71, just had a pacemaker put in and don’t know where to do from here.
Thanks for your halep
FranSeptember 11, 2005 at 3:55 am #8598
I know how you feel. I find it strange that I still feel that my brother is always looking over me. I had a butterfly land on my arm the other day, and I had the strangest sensation that it was sent by him. I have good and bad days, but have come to terms that he is not suffering, and I myself know he did not care for his quality of life he was going through since March. I will always miss him.
I pray for you, and your family and just remember all of the good times, and laughter you had together. You will find much peace with the memories of good times.
JaneSeptember 12, 2005 at 5:33 pm #8599
Don’t feel bad or guilty about not crying all of the time. You might feel that your dad is still with you in the many good memories you have. Or you might feel that he is in a much better place without pain and in a perfect body. I’m sure he would not want you to go through the rest your life mourning him. You suffered enough watching him suffer.
JimSeptember 15, 2005 at 8:05 pm #8600
I just wanted to say how sorry I am for the losses that we have heard about through this forum. I hope everyone is doing alright. You are in my thoughts.
KarenSeptember 15, 2005 at 8:59 pm #8601
I’m hanging in here. Just letting the mourning process take its course. I’m still in some denial and I’m working a lot of overtime so I can “ignore it” for a while. But it still hits me pretty hard from time to time.
I really hope that everyone is doing well.
CarrieSeptember 15, 2005 at 10:46 pm #8602
thanks for checking in hun, our brains certainly do have their own ways to help to protect us from loseing it ! and making us able to better cope, I was like you but not with overtime at work, I just went overtime on my kids and the yard work, it’s a copeing mechanism not denial… just don’t deny the tears if they come, or feel guilty about any laughter you might experience ,if you deny thoes then it will only build up and surface later on, and it will be harder to deal with, if the urge hit’s you to cry, then go with it, theres no set time table and be careful not to compare yourself to others, everybody grieves differently and at different paces.
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