Thanks, Donna and Jody, for your good thoughts. You’re right Jody, this is a great group. I’m not sure what I would have done without you all.
Donna, I agree, I know that some depression and anxiety is normal in this situation. My dad went through 3 years of cancer before he died, and although I don’t know if I would ever say he was depressed, he was pretty darn stoic, and he kept his more negative feelings to himself. Hans is different. While he is naturally very quiet and not terribly prone to “sharing” I feel I can read him pretty well since he’s been ill. There have been down periods and better periods. I think now he feels since the treatment options are running out, he’s having to face the hard truth and it’s scaring him more than ever before.
I guess the combo of side effects of the current treatment and the stress is hitting him very hard right now.
I’m so sorry you lost your husband so young, and then your mom, so young also. How very, very difficult. I remember seeing a thing on TV about people who live to be very old and are HAPPY, and the common trait they all had was an acceptance of change and loss. When you live to be very old, there’s a good chance you will lose many loved ones. It’s all part of the process of living.
Jody, thanks for your continued support. I hope your mum is continuing to do well!
hugs,
Esme