July 17, 2005 at 10:03 pm #7643KathrynMember
Hello my forum friends….
My father, Oliver Edmund Martin, Jr. “Ace”, passed away yesterday… The pneumonia was just too much on his heart & his lungs. His oncologist said that the Trisenox was working & the leukemia had stablized, though I feel it definitely had some affect on his being able to heal… The operation was a risk, but he was a fighter. He wanted to do everything he could to live. He was a very very compassionate & gentle soul…So strong & brave…A wonderful musician, father & best friend…. Though my heart is aching horribly, I am given a sense of peace knowing that he is free and in a beautiful place.
Two things I learned from this that I find important enough to share are:
*To have a living will. Be very explicit what YOUR wishes are. My father made his very clear, which made the decisions we were forced to make that much easier.
*My dad was coded. His heart went haywire and they had to use the paddles/crash cart to get it back into a regular rhythm. His nurse later on was quite afraid about him going into a code situation again. We found that when a patient’s platelet count runs very low they run the risk of a “bleed out” if paddled. This wasn’t the case w/ my dad, but they only used them once… maybe it would have been different had they needed to use them more. At that point, it was decided that that my dad would only be a chemical code; they would use a medicine injection to revive his heart.
Everyone, this forum of wonderful, caring people has been such a life saver for me. Since joining, there hasn’t been a day that I haven’t thought & prayed about you and felt comfort knowing that you were doing the same for me…. Words don’t sufficiently express my sincere appreciation and admiration for you all. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart for all the kindness, encouragement, prayers, information & support you have given me over the months. I will continue to be an active part of this forum, hopefully giving you at least a portion of what you all have given me these past months.
W/love & my very best wishes… and a HUGE hug,
P.S. I met Nicole yesterday. What a sweet sweet person… Her father needs your prayers… as does Nicole & her family. Please keep them in your thoughts.July 17, 2005 at 11:14 pm #7644mommachkateMember
My deepest sympathy for you and your family. My heart goes out for you. Like you said, he is free of suffering and he is in peace. It is just so beautiful, how you wrote about him, I am sure he was a very special person. May the beaautiful memories help you through this difficult times.
Hugs ; KateJuly 17, 2005 at 11:17 pm #7645MarshaMember
I am so sorry to hear the news of your father’s passing. I pray for you and your family that God will grant you peace and strength to get thru this trying time. Extra prayers are being said for Nicole and her family too.
God Bless, MarshaJuly 17, 2005 at 11:35 pm #7646DonUKMember
Kathryn – I am so so sorry. You and your family are in my prayers to give you strength through this difficult time. May your father rest in peace. You will see him again one day.July 17, 2005 at 11:57 pm #7647geebeebeeMember
Kathryn, I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family are in our thoughts.
GregJuly 18, 2005 at 12:03 am #7648TerriMember
Kathryn, My deepest sympathies to you and the family. I am so sorry to hear the news.
God BlessJuly 18, 2005 at 12:21 am #7649SuzanneMember
Kathryn, So sorry to see your news. It sounds like you and the family made sure things happend the way he wanted. Thanks for taking the time to give the heads up to the rest of us from your experience.July 18, 2005 at 1:36 am #7650ButchLParticipant
So sorry to hear. My prayers are with you and your family…..
ButchJuly 18, 2005 at 2:13 am #7651eveMember
my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this most difficult time – may all the loving memories you have of your dad live within your heart forever
eveJuly 18, 2005 at 2:20 am #7652sarahMember
Kathryn, my deepest sympathies to you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
SarahJuly 18, 2005 at 2:38 am #7653KATHY1Member
So sorry to hear of your dad’s passing. My heart goes out to you.
KathyJuly 18, 2005 at 3:40 am #7654pattiMember
I am sorry to hear about your dad. Losing a parent is so hard. Thank you for caring enough for others to provide useful information that could affect how others are taken care of. That is incredibly thoughtful at a time when you are mourning.
Prayers to you and your family at your dad’s passing into eternity.
PattiJuly 18, 2005 at 4:27 am #7655EnsneeMember
I’m so very sorry that you have lost your wonderful dad. I lost my dad to cancer 6 1/2 years ago. While it still hurts & I still miss him, I can now think of him with smiles instead of tears. Thanks for your sensitive message. My thoughts are with you, your dad, and your family.
EsmeJuly 18, 2005 at 1:15 pm #7656CarrieMember
CarrieJuly 18, 2005 at 1:29 pm #7657frankParticipant
so sorry to hear all these.
big HUGS, and love…
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