Signs of end stage MDS
Tagged: End stage MDS
February 11, 2020 at 9:28 am #50159Kathy StermerParticipant
Simone, so sorry for all your going through. Besides all the emotional and physical aspects of dealing with all you are, it’s so distressing to hear you don’t feel you’re getting adequate information and support from your caregiving team. This disease is frustrating enough by itself without having to deal with all the other components of your health. Wishing you the best and hopefully you will find peace, dignity and some answers to what you need.February 13, 2020 at 7:49 am #50167Rita AltmanParticipant
This is the first time I have written but looking for opinions
My husband is 82 and also has dementia He was diagnosed with high risk MDS in October. We have done 5 rounds of Videza. Yesterday his numbers were at all time lows. The dr said transfusion dependency can greatly affect quality of life. Because of his dementia he does not understand that he is ill. I don’t know what to do. He does not sit still very well so the thought of transfusions that can take all day could be a nightmare. I am considering doing nothing when we stop the Videza. It is so hard to make life and death decisions for someone. Is this better for him or for me? Transplant is not an option for him. I will really appreciate any input and supportFebruary 13, 2020 at 8:25 am #50168Rose PalazzoloParticipant
It is difficult to make these decisions and guilt follows you thinking did I do this for him or for me. My husband had MDs and was diagnosed at age 74. It will be 11 months next week that he passed and feels like yesterday and some days it feels years have passed. He did the Videza for two rounds. Went for the thirds and doctor said it’s not working. Those injections took everything out of him. He went down hill after that. He did the transfusions first monthly, then every three weeks then it progressed to weekly which also included platelets. From September to February he did the transfusions which was an all day thing at least six hours. He had no quality of life. We did nothing, he could hardly walk. He only went out for transfusions. He slept a lot, ate very little, watched a little tv and back to sleeping. When his counts no longer changed even after transfusions he made the decision to stop and we called in hospice. One month later he was gone. Since your husband isn’t capable of making the decision and counts are so low, maybe you should discuss with his doctor about hospice. It is a hard decision and most difficult for the caregiver. Hospice will make him very comfortable. Just be with him and love him, till the end. My husband was active, healthy, we thought and up and about until he was diagnosed. Nine months later he was gone, he lost 50 pounds in that time. If there was any chance he would be back to his old self we would have kept trying, but that was not going to happen. Talk to your doctor and hospice you will make the right decision for both of you. If you want to email me feel free at email@example.com. Prayers for both of you.
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